Monday Morning Business Coach, Author at Carpenter Smith Consulting, LLC

Manage Vacation Stress

June 29, 2015

We are always reminding our clients that stepping into your power and claiming the leader in you requires taking good care of yourself—psychologically, emotionally, intellectually, relationally, and physically. As we enter into the prime vacation months, we encourage you to think about how you can make the most of your vacation. Over the years, many of our clients have described going on vacation only to feel they needed to come back and get a vacation from their vacation. They describe…

Leading When You Want to Scream

June 22, 2015

Monday Morning Business Coach

We had a meeting this week with a wonderful woman, Janis, who is a leader in a number of spheres in her life—in her business, her family, her community, and her church. She is warm, kind, and powerful. She is often looked to for her wisdom and perspective and has a thoughtfulness that many admire. So, when she came into our meeting furious and saying she wanted to scream, she was apologetic. We assured her that she was in the…

Inspire Others to Dream More

June 15, 2015

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“If your actions inspire others to dream more,learn more, do more and become more,you are a leader.” — John Quincy Adams We recently had a conversation with some young adults who we know through our young adult children. They are amazing young people with great passion and integrity. In our conversation, several of them talked about their belief that leadership is a role and that the people who pursue that role are power-hungry and self-absorbed. Since we had just…

Don’t Get Run Over…

June 8, 2015

Monday Morning Business Coach

“Even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there.” — Will Rogers This quote by Will Rogers is both humorous and wise. It is important, in our lives and in our work, to have a vision for our futures. For many people, when they finally create a compelling vision for the future, they are excited about being on the right track. They have a sense of where they want to go and the…

Do You Lose Yourself in Others’ Pain?

June 1, 2015

Monday Morning Business Coach

Over the past weeks, we have been talking about Daniel Goleman’s four components of Emotional Intelligence and how to translate each into action. Last week, we answered a question that a number of people from the Monday Morning Business Coach community asked, “What if I just miss the people stuff?” This week we want to speak to another issue addressed by our readers, a tendency to lose themselves in others’ pain. If the pain of others emotionally paralyzes you, you…

What If I Miss The People Stuff?

May 25, 2015

Monday Morning Business Coach

Over the past 5 weeks, we have been talking about Daniel Goleman’s four components of Emotional Intelligence and how to translate each into action. We have gotten wonderful comments and questions in response to the posts—thank you. One question in particular called for an answer and that question is: “What if I just miss the people stuff?” A number of you commented that, while you really appreciate Goleman’s work and our tips about how to implement that work, you still…

Learn How Relationship Skills Drive Success

May 18, 2015

Monday Morning Business Coach

This is the final week in our series on operationalizing emotional intelligence. It started in April when we shared the four traits that Daniel Goleman found are essential to emotional intelligence. Each week since then, we’ve been coaching you on how to translate the ideas of emotional intelligence into actual behaviors and practices. If you missed any of the posts they can be found on our website. Goleman’s four traits make sense intellectually and are important to leadership but many…

Empathy: Why You Need It to Succeed

May 11, 2015

Monday Morning Business Coach

A couple of weeks ago, we shared the four traits that Daniel Goleman found are essential to emotional intelligence. Each week since then, we’ve been coaching you on how to translate the ideas of emotional intelligence into actual behaviors and practices. Many people have told us that Goleman’s four traits make sense and are important but then they get stuck trying to figure out what they actually need to do to succeed. So to help you move from theory to…

Self-Management: Emotional Intelligence Operationalized

May 4, 2015

Monday Morning Business Coach

On April 20, 2015, we shared with you Daniel Goleman’s list of the 4 traits his research has shown are essential to emotional intelligence. Each week, for four weeks, we are going to operationalize, or bring to life, each of these traits so that you can increase your emotional intelligence, and thereby increase your effectiveness at work and at home. Many people have told us that they read Goleman’s 4 traits but get stuck trying to figure out what they…

How Self-Aware Are You?

April 27, 2015

Monday Morning Business Coach

Last week, we shared with you Daniel Goleman’s list of the 4 traits his research has shown are essential to emotional intelligence. This week, we are going to talk with you about operationalizing the first of these traits so that you can increase your emotional intelligence, and thereby increase your effectiveness at work and at home. People read Goleman’s 4 traits and think they are great, but then get stuck trying to figure out the answer to the question, “How…